my boss hasn’t talked to me in months

by Alison Inexperienced on July 21, 2021

A reader writes:

Since I returned from trip a couple of months in the past, my supervisor hasn’t spoken to me. We’re in several places of work and she or he would normally drop by most days to catch up earlier than, so it feels very unusual to have a complete month go by with out something from her. I do know that her schedule has been very full, however she nonetheless makes time to speak with the remainder of my crew and people exterior it. The distinction with how she pertains to me is startling. Nothing occurred to trigger this that I can determine. I’ve gone over issues in my head and might’t see something that I could have achieved.

I’ve been attempting to persuade myself that if I had achieved one thing incorrect she would have advised me immediately, however I’m discovering this lack of communication very troubling and nerve-racking. I don’t know whether or not I’m studying an excessive amount of right into a busy schedule/supervisor stress (I’m essentially the most skilled employee within the crew so perhaps I don’t want the identical oversight as others) or if that is one thing I ought to be involved about. My anxiousness is making the considered chatting with her about it a scary prospect; I’m frightened about seeming needy or consideration looking for.

I reply this query — and 4 others — over at Inc. immediately, the place I’m revisiting letters which were buried within the archives right here from years in the past (and typically updating/increasing my solutions to them). You may learn it right here.

Different questions I’m answering there immediately embrace:

  • Is declining a reference name a pink flag?
  • I acquired an nameless criticism about politics
  • Canceling an interview after listening to horrible issues concerning the interviewer
  • Ought to I count on a response to a thank-you word?